Call Me. A few weeks ago I was talking with a new client and she was telling me about the last guy she had dated.  She said they got along great, had fun together but she never talked to him between dates because all he would do was text her. "Really, he never called you?" "Nope, he did everything by text, even asking me out on dates.  I'd leave him a voicemail, he'd text me in reply.  I'd text him to call me, he'd text me back asking what was up." TEXTATIONSHIPS. On one of their last dates as they were talking he said something…

I was recently talking with one of my clients about some of the women we've introduced him to.  These women have been great matches; he's liked several of them and has wanted to see them again.  Unfortunately, they haven't had an interest in seeing him again.  I asked him why he thought this was, what was the common denominator in all of these dates? His answer? They are all 55 or older. Why Doesn't She Want to See Him Again? He feels that women over 55 want to have that love at first site feeling again.  That experience of being swept off…

Is the Exclusive Talk Really Necessary? I was recently speaking with a new client who was born and raised outside of the U.S. She asked me what I thought about the “exclusive” talk, you know that sit down, heart to heart where you ask the person you are dating if you…

Ladies, you've dated them, and guys, you might recognize if you've been one - The Puppy Dog.  That guy that is "too nice" after or during a first date.  He tries too hard, pays too many compliments, gushes about how wonderful she is, and just seems downright forlorn when the date ends - thus the puppy dog eyes. Mystery Gentlemen, pay attention - - ladies like a little mystery, a little intrigue, a little hard to get, but (and this is a big BUT), they also like nice guys.  So if you are a nice guy, how do you balance…

One of my clients was talking to me about a conversation she recently had where the guy was asking her what she was looking for in a man.  She mentioned intelligence, humor, stable both financially and emotionally but told him she didn't really care what he looked like or how tall he was. In response, he said, "Geez, you're really settling aren't you?" Your List. Everyone has a list of must have's and/or deal breakers when they are looking to meet their match.  The list typically has the important things on it, but can't possibly have everything on it.  Once you make…

Bill Husted, of the Denver Post, recently interviewed dating coach, author and Denverite Rachel Greenwald about her new book, "Why He Didn't Call You Back." During the interview he asked her this question - Should women send a thank you email after a date? Her answer, "Never. She's chasing him, and if a guy likes you, he wants to do the chasing." One of my matchmaking clients (a woman) recently asked me what I thought of her answer and did I agree.  I don't think it's as easy as saying never. Scenarios Let's look at a couple scenarios to…

Denver is a pretty casual town, generally laid back and relaxed, but seriously folks, if you are single and dating in Denver are you so casual that you lose sight of common courtesy?  I've recently heard from both men and women about how manners and common courtesy seem to be a thing of the past these days, due in part to technology. Read on, I'd love your opinion! Don't be Rude or Wimpy. Ah, the infamous wimpy way out - I'll just let him/her know via email or text message that I don't want to see him/her anymore.  Hey, at least I'm…

Date Etiquette Whether you are dating in Denver or single somewhere else in the world, everyone gets nervous before a first date.  There is advice galore out there for what to do and not to do on a first date.  But all of that advice is useless if you don't start the date off on time. What Time Should You Arrive for a Date? Early? Right on time? Fashionably late? My advice is 5 minutes early.  Why is that?  Well, think about it.  You are waiting at the bar for your date to arrive.  Maybe you have been stood up before, maybe you…

Dating as you get older is sometimes pretty scary ground. For many, after years being married and perhaps living through a tough divorce, the idea of meeting someone again may seem awkward, uncertain, or at the very least - you may have been out of the dating scene for so long that you don't even know what the rules are anymore! (And rule books seem scarce!) And yet, here you are on your first date. Or at least the first date in years.  Dating when you're past the teenaged years is a bit different and…

Relationship Books - Advice Galore. There are a lot of relationship books out there these days to help both men and women find that perfect someone. To name just a few: 10 Rules to Finding a Mate How to Find a Husband How to find Mr. or Ms. Right Bewitch a Man: How to Find Him and Keep Him Under Your Spell Find Them, Keep Them, Marry Them You get the idea; there are a lot of books out there!  What these books teach you is obvious from…