Should the Man Love her More?
Tuesday, February 19th, 2008I was recently having a discussion with a friend of mine, we’ll call her Linda, about love. Linda told me that her mom once advised her that in a relationship the man should love the woman more. Well it got me thinking, is this true? For a relationship to work does the man need to be more in love with the woman than she is with him?
Linda recently took the advice to heart and stayed with a man she knew she didn’t love the way he loved her. She stayed because she thinks this statement should be true. He loved her so much and so unconditionally, how could someone give that up? Well, the relationship didn’t work, but why? Was it because she didn’t love him enough and he loved her more? Well, as it turns out it was really because she didn’t respect him enough. She didn’t think he was strong enough as a man and complained too much about the difficulties of life. His love for her was the fabulous part, but not enough to make the relationship last.
In a relationship, if he loves her more, does that make him weak? or less of a man? And is this why Linda’s relationship didn’t work? This is a question I have an opinion on. I think even the strongest of men can have a super soft spot for a woman in their life that they love unconditionally. That Type-A personality can still be a softy when it comes to his woman. However, this type-A man needs to let his ego go at the door to his home, he has to be in touch with who he is and know that he loves and needs this woman in his life and she needs to love him back, unconditionally too.
Which brings me to my original question, should he love her more? If you have an opinion let me know, I’d love to hear it, especially from the men!
