New Year’s Resolutions, every year people set them and when the weather starts to get warm they are all but forgotten. And year after year I receive phone calls from people in January who are looking for love. Don’t get me wrong, this is great, we love it when our phone rings! But when I ask them what made them decide to pick up the phone and call they say – “I set a goal to meet my match this year.” Wow! That’s a lot of pressure to put on yourself!
I’m the first to agree that calling Ignite Matchmaking is a good first step, but it’s just one small step in the right direction. I was recently accused of jumping from Point A to Point Z and not considering all the little steps in the middle that I needed to get there. Well that’s what you are doing when you go from Point A: I’m single to Point Z: I’m going to find my match this year. You need to consider all the steps in the middle that will get you from A to Z.
Here are some suggestions to fill in the points between A and Z:
- Obviously call an expert like us!
- Make time in your calendar to date – REALLY. Set aside at least 2 evenings a week to either go on a date or do something that helps with #3 below.
- Expand your network of friends and acquaintances. Do this by going to an event you’ve never been to before, signing up for a class you’ve always wanted to take, or asking that shy co-worker at the office if they want to go grab a drink after work. You never know who you will meet that will introduce you to your match!
- Break out of your old routines. Sure, routines make us comfortable and they are easy to remember, but is it helping you to reach your goal? Do you go to work, then the gym, then home to eat, maybe talk to a friend or watch a little TV, and then hit the sack? If that’s not working for you, change it up! If you’ve been going to the same gym for 3 years and have never met a potential date, don’t stop going to the gym, just try another gym! Do you love your dance class every Tuesday and Thursday? I’m sure it’s fun, but if you haven’t met someone there yet try a new studio or take a break and try something else. Mix it up people!
Make a Plan
Start the year off right and make a plan to reach your goal. Pick a few baby steps that you are going to take to help you meet your match and by all means don’t let the warm weather get you off track!
Do you have some great “Baby Step” ideas? If so, we’d love you to post them here for everyone to see.