This isn’t really a forum. The woman whose website this is, is a matchmaker in the Denver area. You can see from the dates that the comments are fairly far apart.

I know that I don’t have time to treat this as a forum, and I’m certainly not the moderator. If Sheryl wants to make this into a bigger standalone deal, I’m sure she can, but I doubt that was her intent. This started out as a comment board about a particular situation and client of hers.

I personally have a dating blog, but I haven’t been very good at keeping it up, due to the intensity and time commitment of my day job and other activities! I’m the opposite of you, I have too much on my plate! If you are interested in my blog, please email me offline and I will send you the address.

By the way, I am originally from NW New Jersey, but it has been many many years since I lived there. I was in Cape May last year for a few days before my high school reunion, and it was wonderful. I do sometimes miss having the shore nearby. But, I love the mountains of Colorado.

All the best with your situation. It almost sounds as though you have given your whole life to your family. I hope you can take some of that back and begin to have a life of your own. You already raised a family. To also raise your son’s family sounds quite lonely. I know I’d feel trapped by that. You deserve your own life, friends, job, etc. Were you a housewife when you were married, or did you have a career? Even if you could get out and do some volunteer work, I’m guessing that would help you to feel more of your own personal power, and you might meet other people that way, too.

Sondra

I’m sad for your loss and your obvious bad experiences in the dating world. It’s tough for most of us, no matter how we look. I’ve been told I’m beautiful, but I haven’t had a serious relationship in years. Yes, I’m picky, but it’s not all about looks. It’s about attitude. If either a man or a woman goes into this dating world looking for someone to take care of them, complete them, etc. they will be disappointed. We each have to go into the dating world as complete beings, happy with ourselves, and looking for more. If you are out there, having fun in your life, women will find you.

Example – I was at a Halloween party last night. I’ve been very stressed. That comes across, energetically, whether you are aware of it or not. Though I danced a good bit, my friend, who actually just lost her job, but is relieved and relaxed, having fun – she was getting SO much attention. Hugs, kisses, touch, even she was amazed. She is older than me, in her 60′s. I hate to admit it, but the difference was our attitudes. She was looking for fun. I was tired. When I finally started having some fun, men came to me. It’s funny how that works.

One more thing. It is much more prevalent to find older men with young eye candy on their arms than the other way around…
Boomers, especially, want to remain young as long as possible, and having a younger significant other gives the illusion.

Sondra