I was recently talking with one of my clients about some of the women we’ve introduced him to. These women have been great matches; he’s liked several of them and has wanted to see them again. Unfortunately, they haven’t had an interest in seeing him again. I asked him why he thought this was, what was the common denominator in all of these dates? His answer? They are all 55 or older.
Why Doesn’t She Want to See Him Again?
He feels that women over 55 want to have that love at first site feeling again. That experience of being swept off their feet, taken out, entertained, but they don’t really want a relationship. Therefore, if they don’t get that flutter in their stomach from him, they have no interest in pursuing a relationship.
The Common Denominator
What might be apparent to everyone reading this is the other common denominator in this equation, him. I tried to steer the conversation in this direction, attempting to get at what could potentially be standing in his way – himself. What might he be doing or not doing on these dates that could be causing these women not to want to see him again?
Ego or Accurate?
He insists it’s the women, so I brought it up with some of my other clients in his age group. Some of the men agreed whole heartedly, saying that women over 55 are too set in their ways, they’ve forgotten how to appreciate a man, they don’t say thank you, and they take the men for granted. However, several of my clients also disagreed and said that while it never feels good to be rejected, you need to put your ego aside and figure out what you might be doing that is keeping you from getting a second or even third date.
What do you think? I’d love to hear from the ladies 55+, do you truly want a relationship? or just a companion to take you to dinner on occasion? Do you prefer to spend your quality time with friends and family? Sound out and let us know your thoughts!