The other evening, while heading out for date night with my husband, we were discussing the movie “500 Days of Summer.” I don’t want to spoil the movie for anyone, but basically boy meets girl, boy falls for girl, and well I’m not going to say anymore. Our discussion centered around the fact that my husband insists that once a woman has sex with a guy he falls faster for her, while I insist that once a woman sleeps with a man she falls for him faster.
The Argument for the Man Falling Faster.
My husband’s argument is that women do not typically sleep around or take having sex with someone lightly. Therefore, a guy knows that if he has sex with a woman, she must really like him already and it is now safe for him to fall head over heels for her. He points out that my argument fails (see below) because there are in fact some women who sleep around and they don’t fall for the men at all.
The Argument for the Woman Falling Faster.
My argument is that women fall faster because after they have sex with a man something “chemically” happens and they feel very attached to that man. Having sex changes something for women. There is a whole body of research by Dr. Helen Fisher, a biological anthropologist, showing how the chemicals in a woman’s body actually cause her to be more attracted to a man she sleeps with, especially if she has an orgasm. These chemicals may even cause her to fall in love with the man.
Who Falls Faster?
It seems we have my biological argument and a more intellectual argument by my husband. So the question is, who is right? Are we both right? What has been your experience? Do women or men fall faster? Post your thoughts, we’d love to hear them!