Are You in a Textationship?
Tuesday, August 25th, 2009Call Me.
A few weeks ago I was talking with a new client and she was telling me about the last guy she had dated. She said they got along great, had fun together but she never talked to him between dates because all he would do was text her.
“Really, he never called you?”
“Nope, he did everything by text, even asking me out on dates. I’d leave him a voicemail, he’d text me in reply. I’d text him to call me, he’d text me back asking what was up.”
TEXTATIONSHIPS.
On one of their last dates as they were talking he said something to the effect of “I guess were not that far in our Textationship.” TEXTATIONSHIP?? So now there is a term for couples who do nothing but text each other? She was stunned! Urbandictionary.com defines Textationship as - a relationship based solely on texting. No phone conversations ever take place other than brief one sentence statements such as “I’m here, open the gate.”
What’s Next?
It’s such a connected world these days, with email, voice mail, texting, Facebook, LinkedIn, etc. we are becoming more and more disconnected from each other and this doesn’t help in the world of relationships. You can’t truly get to know someone via text messaging and I certainly don’t believe you can fall in love with someone simply by spending your days texting. What’s next, Twitterationships, where we communicate impersonally in 140 characters or less?
Sound Off.
What do you think? Have you been in a textationship? Do you know of one that has worked? Do you think you can build a real, heartfelt relationship via texting? Let us know your thoughts on the matter, we’d love to know!
I am a 40 year old male and was in a relationship which evolved into a textationship. It was amazing how many miscommunications occurred in my textationship. I guess I am old fashioned, I preferred to either get together with someone in person or talk on the phone, how else do you expect to do really get to know someone and have hope that the relationship will grow. I am okay with FYI’s or “thinking of you” texts but that is the extent of what I would be willing to accept in future relationships. As a side note, some of my animosity toward textationships could be the fact that I received a “dear John” text.
I am a 31 year old female who is apparently old fashioned, and is exasperated by “textationship’s. I can’t believe there is a word for this, but at least it validates a very real phenomenon. I now have a test in place. If I give a man my number, and he texts me to ask me out–it’s annoying, but I allow some grace (understanding that this is a new era), and I’ll call back. If he doesn’t answer and I have to leave a message, I’ll ask him to call. If he then responds with another text then I politely decline further communications as this is not a relationship that I want to pursue.
I think texting separates the men from the guys. Guys text–Men call.
The default should always be a personal phone call, unless you’re letting me know that you can’t talk now, or are running late. This is true for women as well—ladies, put an end to textationship’s by not engaging in them.